Finding peace in wake of aunt's
death
By PATRICIA LEFEVERE
Special Reports Writer
Ruth Ford was 14 when her aunt, Maryknoll Sr. Ita Ford, was raped
and murdered in El Salvador 16 years ago, along with her companions, Maryknoll
Sr. Maura Clarke, Ursuline Sr. Dorothy Kazel and Maryknoll lay missionary Jean
Donovan.
When Maryknoll called Ita's brother, Bill, with the news of her
disappearance, on Dec. 2, 1980, the family was still in shock over the news
three months earlier that Ita's life had been saved by her friend, Maryknoll
Sr. Carla Piette, who pushed the smaller nun through the window of their jeep
as it was overturned in a surging gully that had trapped the car and its
passengers. Piette drowned, while Ita was pulled to safety by the force of the
cascading water.
Ita left behind a mother, a brother, a sister and 10 nieces and
nephews -- five of them are Ruth's siblings and one, her 16-year-old brother
John, was but a few days old when the tragedy occurred.
Sometimes the cousins talk about the murder, Ruth said. "But it is
still very raw. People are just starting to assimilate it into their lives,"
she told NCR during a visit to the Maura Clarke-Ita Ford Center in
Brooklyn, N.Y., where she helps with publicity as a volunteer.
The murder has put an obligation on them, she said. "Each of us
feels it in a certain way."
Ruth has been accepted into law school and may attend next year.
She has held a number of jobs, including one as a news aide at The
Washington Post in 1987 when six Jesuits, their housekeeper and her
daughter were also murdered in El Salvador. The Post editorialized that
the priests "were in the line of fire."
Ruth found the courage to confront the paper's deputy editorial
page editor. In what she called "an Ita moment," she went into his office and
said: "I'm sorry, but you're wrong."
In 1994 Ruth, then 28, traveled to the places in El Salvador where
her aunt had lived, worked and died. "Everything was completely strange and yet
very familiar," Ruth said.
She found the tiny Central American country, whose civil war had
displaced half the population and put 75,000 Salvadorans in graves, "totally
steeped in the blood of the martyrs. ... Someone from the Balkans would
understand what it was like," she said.
For part of her stay she lived among rural people who had returned
from Honduras, where they had fled during the fighting. She spoke of the
"tremendous modesty" of the women with whom she camped and their "absolute
determination to survive."
One night Ruth went into a field where a single shower had been
installed. Under the stars and the warm water, "I realized that 'I'm not going
to be happier than this in my life,' " she said. For the first time in the 14
years since her aunt's death, Ruth found "complete peace -- a feeling I'd not
had before or since," she said.
National Catholic Reporter, December 13,
1996
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