Books Nouwen lives again in tribute volume
BEFRIENDING
LIFE: ENCOUNTERS WITH HENRI NOUWEN Edited by Beth Porter, with
Susan M.S. Brown & Philip Coulter Doubleday, 273 pages,
$21.95. |
REVIEWED By ROBERT
DURBACK
In the years immediately following Fr. Henri Nouwens death,
friends began expressing interest in writing their memories about him and the
influence he had on their lives. LArche Daybreak in Ontario, where Henri
had served as pastor from 1986 until his death in 1996, became a gathering
point where these friends from all over the world came to renew their
connection with his spirit and the community he served.
As they shared their interests, the idea eventually took hold that
a collection of stories and memories about Nouwen should be compiled and
published in a single volume. The result is Befriending Life, edited by
Beth Porter with assistance from Susan M.S. Brown and Philip Coulter.
Porter, a resident at LArche Daybreak since 1981, previously
taught college English for several years. She was well acquainted with Nouwen
as friend and colleague throughout his tenure at Daybreak. She currenty chairs
the interfaith committee of the communitys pastoral team and writes on
spirituality and interfaith matters.
Contributors were asked not to eulogize Nouwen but to write about
him as the complex person he was. The resulting collection is an offering of
choice vignettes, accounts from people who knew Nouwen personally, saw him
up close, observed him at his best and at his weakest.
The book opens with the witness of the wife of a rabbi based at
the local synagogue in Toronto. Her impression of Nouwen, upon meeting him for
the first time at a party, speaks for the many who would come to know him in
the course of a marathon ministry that would propel him on his many journeys
around the world:
here was this man I didnt know offering
me the gift of his complete focused attention.
My conversation with
Henri took only 15 minutes or so, but it was intense.
When we parted and
went on to chat with other guests, I felt that I had stepped out of a circle of
light and deep significance back into the mundane world.
Bob Massie, a longtime friend of Nouwens from his days at
Yale, offers a glimpse of Nouwen in one of his lighter moments. In a
conversation with students on dreams, one student asks: Do you dream in
English or in Dutch? Nouwen replies with a smile: In English, but
with a little Dutch accent.
Michael Ford returns to regale readers with insights gleaned in
the course of his research for his first book on Nouwen, Wounded Prophet
(Doubleday, 1999). Recalling an interview with Nouwens brother, Laurent,
at his home in Rotterdam, Ford reports the problem Laurent had with his
world-famous, globe-trotting brother: When Henri came to stay, he was on
the phone for so long that nobody could reach us, they told me.
We were cut off, so we had to have another line put in just
for him. With a smile, Ford concludes: As I tried to keep up with
Henris footsteps around the world, his faithfulness to prayer and his
fidelity to the telephone featured frequently in the conversations.
Retaining the critical stance taken in his book, Ford concludes:
I still consider him a prodigious figure in the world of contemporary
spirituality, but my hope is that people will now examine his work more
critically in the light of his own life story.
Tastefully interspersed throughout the book are quotes from
Nouwens writings. Editor Porter notes: The idea of including
Henris voice in this way was Philips (Philip Coulter, Canadian
Broadcasting producer). He commented early on that in many tribute volumes the
guest of honor is absent. Henri could not have borne to be absent!
Out of 42 character portraits of Nouwen, some of his friends
delighting in the opportunity to lampoon him, others expressing their
devotedness, gratitude and admiration, a constant emerges from the many strands
of shifting emphasis: from hero to tragic hero, from wisest to weakest, from
healer to wounded healer. In perhaps the most penetrating, even-handed
character portrait, Jean Vanier, founder of LArche, sums up the one
overriding characteristic that won for Nouwen his broad appeal:
People loved Henris books because he wrote about
spiritual things not as they should be but as they are. He knew
how to describe his own mess as well as the mess of the world; at the same time
he showed us how to discover the seeds of hope in it all.
Vanier concludes: The last thing anyone could accuse Henri
of was hypocrisy.
Through his words and his writings, he knew how to
meet people where they were.
Henri was among the great ecumenists of
this century.
Befriending Life is a book Nouwen disciples will surely
want to befriend.
Robert Durback is editor of Seeds of Hope: A Henri Nouwen
Reader (Doubleday) and most recently, Henri Nouwen: In My
Own Words (Liguori).
National Catholic Reporter, October 5,
2001
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