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Lenten Series
Liminal Space Lent is a time to listen to our lives
By RICHARD ROHR
The young man who cannot cry is a savage. The old man who
cannot weep is a fool. Native Aphorism
What got me into this work of creating liminal space and
understanding initiation was my observation of the state of the male of the
species, clergy and laymen. We are not in good shape. We do not tend to
naturally understand spirituality. In fact, I am convinced the male is
naturally resistant to spiritualitys language of intimacy, surrender,
patience and trust. Men like roles instead of process, dressing up instead of
dressing down.
To paraphrase the Rogers and Hammerstein song, the male has
to be taught, he has to be carefully taught. And this is why almost all
ancient cultures deemed male initiation necessary for the survival of the
tribe. The male must be taught the tears of things before you can
dare invest him in power, or he will always abuse that power. Initiation is
always an intentional journey into powerlessness, so the man will know how to
use power well.
To quote Jesus initiation message to his own trainees,
You must indeed drink of the cup that I must drink and be baptized with
the baptism that I have been plunged into (Mark 10:37-39). And it is
Peter, the first pope, who fights the message and forces Jesus to call him
Satan (Matthew 16:22-23). The fact that Peter is the only person Jesus ever
calls a devil is somehow missed by most papophiles.
Not only do we no longer have any semblance of male initiation,
but we actually promote and enable the opposite. We anti-initiate, even in the
church. Thus you can be ordained to priesthood or episcopacy not with
motivations of descent but for purposes of ascent. It is called job security
and ascribed status. Even Cardinal Joseph Ratzinger (NCR, July 30, 1999)
and the Roman office for bishops (NCR, May 28, 1999) have admitted that
careerism is a major problem in the episcopacy. When they admit it publicly,
you know how bad it must be.
Life is not about the job
Young Catholic men can go entirely through the Catholic school
system, including Jesuit universities or a seminary, without ever being told
that life is not about job, role, security, placement and advancement. We hope
that a good Jesuit sermon tells them the real gospel once in a while, but
surely the entire structure and expectation says the exact opposite. It is all
about achievement and competition and being in control. Now tell me, how
is this individual possibly prepared to understand the Sermon on the Mount or
the mystery of the crucified Christ? It is literally in-credible to
him. He will naturally use the church, sacraments, ministry roles and grace
itself to advance himself. And when they dont advance him, forget it. Or
just go through the motions, which might be worse.
This pattern of ascent, as I call it (see The Wild Mans
Journey published by St. Anthony Messenger Press), is so in the hard wiring
of the male of the species that cultures knew they had to teach the male at
the beginning the crucial and necessary knowledge about descent. Thus it
was rightly called initiation. It was too late to tell him about it after he
had put even 20 years into climbing, achieving and promoting himself.
Initiation tells you that you are going to have to build your
tower yes but have no doubt that you must also descend from the tower you have
built. And the higher you build it, the more defeats and
humiliations you will need. The Greeks called it the Icarus
fall. We Christians heard it from Jesus to Peter: When you were
young, you put on your own belt ... but as you grow old, somebody else will put
a belt around you (John 21:18). There have always been two life tasks for
men. We teach the first easily and understandably, but few teach the second,
even in the church. Maybe because they have not been initiated and made the
descent themselves. They are still putting on their own belt. We desperately
need real elders. And when they get there, they cannot keep
retiring to Florida.
Now those who are initiated early, like my father St. Francis,
just dont bother with the silly tower at all. They stay close to the
bottom where things are clean and honest, simple and human. As you are now
suspecting, this is about as countercultural a message today as you can
imagine. Yet isnt it interesting that this message was considered
necessary for the survival of culture. It gives one a helpful paradigm for
understanding the depth, urgency and danger of our problem today. Everywhere,
we are building towers of Babel, with their tops reaching to the heavens,
so that we can make a name for ourselves (Genesis 11:4).
And to make it worse, most young women are now buying the same
delusion and calling it liberation. I am afraid the new generation of women,
who have every right to build their tower, will now need the same classic
initiation and will have to suffer their own turn on the downside of the wheel
of fortune. Persephone, in Greek mythology, had to spend at least part of the
year in the darkness, under the earth.
There is not a single initiation rite that I have studied that is
not about suffering, death and resurrection. Maybe the words are different, the
symbols and rituals vary immensely, but the core message is always there: live
as if you are going to die and you are going to die. We Catholics call
it the paschal mystery. It is the theme of every Eucharist and the
whole meaning of Lent. We call it the mystery of faith: Christ has
died, Christ is risen, Christ will come again. Yet I find the vast
majority of Catholics do not believe it at all. It has become a liturgical
acclamation, but seldom a lifestyle, an agenda, a promise, a guarantee, the big
and truthful description of reality that keeps us free.
When you see reality as honestly and truthfully as it is in the
paschal mystery, you are basically indestructible. You are not surprised by
failure and suffering, you do not waste time with lawsuits to redress wrongs
committed against you; in fact, you do not grieve over offenses (1
Corinthians 3:5). Instead you are now able, like St. Ignatius, to find
God in all things, especially in those places like humiliation,
disappointment, rejection, betrayal, divorce and death. In fact, like all the
saints, you actually find that it is when you are weak that you are
strong (2 Corinthians 2:10). Afterward, and only afterward, you are able
to shout Alleluia! Not joy in suffering itself, but in the new intimacy with
God that this suffering has allowed you to experience. Not joy in weakness
itself, but in the amazing new self that you find yourself to be. It is the joy
of resurrection, the joy of being transformed.
The Spirit goes elsewhere to
teach
Now when the church itself stops believing this its own gospel the
Spirit teaches it quickly elsewhere. Presently, men in Alcoholics Anonymous
groups, women in cancer survivor groups, and children orphaned early often
believe this more than many clergy. It is still too easy for us priests to make
it a mere liturgical acclamation, with appropriate organ accompaniment:
Let us proclaim the mystery of faith. And then I get upset when the
choir does not answer it in the right key. I guess God could not have made his
big message depend upon our correct proclamation of it, so God hid it in our
human flesh, our human experience, our life journey itself. We cant get
away from that, and there is no privileged group that gets to hear the message
ahead of another. All we need do is listen to our lives and learn from them. We
all have lives and bodies. It levels the playing field, and I have slowly
learned to trust that I get what I need to learn the necessary lessons.
But men in particular, it seems to me, need to be invited into
liminal space. When 1 Timothy (2:15) said, Women will be saved by
childbirth, we tended to dislike and mistrust the message, but it might
be wiser than we thought. Most cultures did not feel that women needed classic
initiation. Only her capacity for fertility needed to be blessed and affirmed.
Once a woman has gone through the experience of a totally new body coming out
of her body, she knows the biggies and the essentials. She knows something
about the inherent connection between suffering and new life, she knows that it
happens through her and yet also totally in spite of her, she knows something
that a man simply does not know about mystery, miracle, darkness and waiting.
Ideally, the woman understands transformation and therefore has a basic head
start in understanding spirituality. She knows (if she is
listening, that is), whereas he has to be taught, he has to be carefully
taught.
I have been giving male initiation rites for six years at Ghost
Ranch here in New Mexico and in Europe, but as the men keep telling me, I am
blowing into the wind. About 1,100 English-speaking men have gone
through these rites of passage, and about 400 German-speaking men. So this year
I am starting to train these eligible initiated men to offer rites of
passage for others. I think we have the essential message down, but we
also know that the rituals themselves (and that is the key) will need to be
different for different groups. Also we are no longer initiating boys for the
most part, but adult men because we never had it as boys ourselves. The
churchs sacraments of initiation, as I said in earlier articles, have
been largely protested and prettified out of the male psychic
space. It is only churchy kinds of men who relate to them, which is a rather
small percentage of males.
We will be working this year with seven distinct group rituals:
parish- or church-based groups of men (the hardest!), the incarcerated (the
easiest!), men and boys at risk, gay men (although I am not yet sure they
should be a separate group), black men, Hispanic men, and family-based
initiation rites for sons, godsons, grandsons and nephews. (This is where men
have done the most creative work so far. They want the next generation in their
family to know what they now know.) So, pray for us. This is big stuff. This is
the anti-structure called liminal space, which makes a lot of
church structure actually make sense. It also shows a lot of it for
the relative importance that it has, and it also reveals our amazing capacity
for missing the central point.
Like all liminal and sacred space, male initiation restores an
absolute center, called God, and that, of course, relativizes
everything else. No wonder perhaps that the church itself is eager to forget
it.
Franciscan Fr. Richard Rohr, a popular retreat master, speaker
and writer, is founder of the Center for Action and Contemplation in
Albuquerque. This article is the fifth in a series.
National Catholic Reporter, March 1,
2002
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