Perspective Where the People of God feel safe
By ARTHUR JONES
The kids run up and just tackle
us, said Fr. Austin Doran, and give us a big hug. And Im
certainly not going to push a kid away.
It was Monday. Doran was reflecting on the previous days
9:30 a.m. family Mass. As always, just before the Eucharist, Doran invited the
children up to join him around the altar table.
Up they came, three dozen or more of them. Kids bold and shy, with
little tots looking behind them to be sure a parent hovered nearby as they
mingled with the older ones.
Watching the happy scene, there was a little tear of joy in the
corner of some eyes -- just as there might have been in Jesus eye
whenever that celibate in his 30s delightedly called the children to gather
around him.
Did Doran, though, as pastor of Our Lady of Grace parish in
Encino, Calif., watching the children gather, wonder if the sexual abuse crisis
was altering his relationship with the parishioners, the parents -- and indeed,
the children?
He read Los Angeles Cardinal Roger Mahonys letter on
the archdioceses no tolerance policies on sexual abuse. He
then addressed his own remarks to the congregation of this mid-sized church --
2,900 registered families.
As parish family, he said, we are shocked and
also angry. There are so many stories. He urged the parishioners to
agree to speak openly and freely about the betrayal of trust.
We can talk about it, fairly and responsibly, about what we can be
feeling.
After Mass, as the people filed up to greet him -- Girls Scouts
and Brownies eagerly hawking cookies -- many came up with their usual friendly
approach. That was, he said later, a way of making a statement. Others
came up and specifically thanked me. They were grateful for the cardinals
comments and mine. And Ive gotten e-mail and telephone messages to that
effect, too.
Parishioners also expressed their fears, concerns and sense
of confusion, too. At Sunday evenings St. Josephs Day dinner,
the scandal was table talk -- very measured comments, he said,
people reflective, concerned for the children, but concerned, too, that
the scandal not get in the way of the good things the Catholic church
does.
As pastor, Doran said he has a personal relationship with the
families at the Mass. These parents are intelligent, theyre reading
the papers, theyre concerned about their children, he said.
And were addressing it, talking about it. Giving them a chance to
voice their concerns is very, very important. They naturally have very strong
reactions to such terrible situations.
But people are also reasonable. They know, Doran said, that sexual
predators constitute a tiny percentage of the general population and the
priesthood.
He said fellow priests are feeling overwhelmed. I certainly
identify with them, he said. It does seem overwhelming. A terrible
mess. I noticed in conversations with priests, the hope emerges -- based on our
own experience of how Gods grace works -- that we will come out of this
somehow spiritually a better and stronger church.
Doran belongs to the Jesu Caritas priests prayer group, has
supportive family and lay friends, and priest friends in other parishes. Adding
to this support system is his brother, Fr. Brian Doran, also an archdiocesan
priest.
Austin Doran came to the parish almost five years ago after eight
years as spiritual director at Los Angeles archdiocesan seminary.
For all people, part of our formation for our whole
life, he said, is in coming to a deeper self-knowledge. In
formation for the priesthood and any other kind of ministry, were getting
to know people who are getting to know themselves. If people do not know or
accept themselves very well it makes it more difficult to get to know
them, he said, and thats a difficult judgment for seminary
faculties -- gauging how well this person knows himself or herself, and
therefore how ready are they to make this commitment, and how safe they are for
the People of God.
Is he more guarded now with children?
My formation was recent enough that I was trained in the
seminary to be cautious. Ive shared that with priests --just to be very
prudent. Have another adult present.
But out on the patio, the kids run up, calling, Father
Austin! Father Austin! and give him a hug. He gives them a gentle hug
back and happily sends them on their way.
Arthur Jones is NCR editor at large. His e-mail address
is ajones96@aol.com
National Catholic Reporter, March 29,
2002
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